SELFIE!!!!

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NEVER GIVE UP ON LIFE

If you feel like you’re at the end the road with nowhere to go, realize you are lying to yourself.  You have imprisoned yourself in your own mind by telling self-defeating stories.

Stories about what your life should be like, what you should have already accomplished, and so forth.  By doing this you’ve created a tiny space in your mind and you’ve begun to believe you are actually living in it.

But you are NOT.  You are alive in a vast world with infinite destinations.  Take a moment to remind yourself of this.  Go outside.  Look at the sky and the clouds.  THIS is the space in which you really live.  Breathe it in.  Then look at your current situation again.

Here are some things you need to consider before you give up:

You never fail until you’re satisfied with failure.

– Failure is not falling down; failure is staying down when you have the choice to get back up.  Sometimes you have to fail a thousand times to succeed.  Which means you haven’t really failed yet; you’ve just found a bunch of ways that don’t work.  So don’t get so hung up on a few failed attempts that you miss every new opportunity coming your way.  All of your ideas that don’t work are simply stepping stones on your way to the one idea that does.

What you have learned is what’s important. Life always offers you a second chance – it’s called tomorrow.  But this second chance doesn’t mean anything if you haven’t learned from the events of today.  You have to acknowledge your troubles but gather strength from them, and laugh at your mistakes but learn from them. 

Getting a second chance in life is about giving yourself the opportunity to grow beyond your past failures.  It’s about learning as you go and positively adjusting your attitude and efforts toward future possibilities.

Tough times are just part of life’s natural balance. – Life lives, life dies.  Life laughs, life cries.  Life gives up and life tries.  And life looks different through everyone’s eyes.  In fact, who you were, who you are, and who you will become are three completely different people.  And as you gradually grow beyond the person you were yesterday, keep life’s challenges in perspective.  Hear life’s harmony, and notice the delicate balance.  Realize that life is like playing a grand piano.  The white keys create your happiness and the black keys denote your troubles.  But as you go through life’s journey, remember that the black keys also create music.

Pain helps you grow. – Sometimes things must change so you can change.  Sometimes you must break a little so you can get a peek inside to see what an awesome powerhouse you are.  Sometimes mistakes must be made so wisdom can be earned.  Sometimes you must overcome heartache so you can begin to follow your heart again.

Success is a way of living. – Don’t let your struggles become your identity.  Not everything in your life will go as you expect it to.  This is why you need to drop expectations, live in the present, and go with the flow, rather than against it.  Remind yourself that it’s perfectly okay not to be perfect.  Ultimately, success is not something you achieve, it is what you learn and how you grow as you deal with the realities of life.

You can choose differently.In many cases, the only thing in life you have control over is your perspective.  No matter what happens, YOU control what the meaning is, and what to do with the meaning you give to the circumstance.  Choose to react in a way that motivates happiness, love, or forgiveness, even when circumstances make that choice difficult.

It’s not supposed to be easy. – Just because you’re not where you want to be today doesn’t mean you won’t be there someday.  Again, success is tied to long-term determination.  Successful people keep moving and trying.  They make mistakes, but they do not quit...

STAY POSITIVE!!

KNOW YOUR TEMPERAMENT TODAY

There are four fundamental personality types,sanguine (pleasure-seeking and sociable), choleric(ambitious and leader-like), melancholic (analytical and literal), and phlegmatic (relaxed and thoughtful)

Sanguine

The sanguine temperament is traditionally associated with air. People with this temperament tend to be playful, lively, sociable, carefree, talkative, and pleasure-seeking. They may be warm-hearted and optimistic. They can make new friends easily, be imaginative and artistic, and often have many ideas.They can be flighty and changeable; thus sanguine personalities may struggle with following tasks all the way through and be chronically late or forgetful.lol...This describes me....

Choleric

The choleric temperament is traditionally associated with fire. People with this temperament tend to be egocentric and extroverted. They may be excitable, impulsive, and restless, with reserves of aggression, energy, and/or passion, and try to instill that in others.They tend to be task-oriented people and are focused on getting a job done efficiently; their motto is usually "do it now." They can be ambitious, strong-willed and like to be in charge. They can show leadership, are good at planning, and are often practical and solution-oriented.They appreciate receiving respect and esteem for their work.They can be best reached through mutual respect and appropriate challenges that recognize their capacities.

Melancholic

The melancholic temperament is traditionally associated with the element of earth. People with this temperament may appear serious, introverted, cautious or even suspicious. They can become preoccupied with the tragedy and cruelty in the world and are susceptible to depression and moodiness. They may be focused and conscientious. They often prefer to do things themselves, both to meet their own standards and because they are not inherently sociable.

Phlegmatic

The phlegmatic temperament is traditionally associated with water. People with this temperament may be inward and private, thoughtful, reasonable, calm, patient, caring, and tolerant. They tend to have a rich inner life, seek a quiet, peaceful atmosphere, and be content with themselves. They tend to be steadfast, consistent in their habits, and thus steady and faithful friends.Their speech tends to be slow or appear hesitant.

TIPS TO A LASTING RELATIONSHIP

1.Begin by simply being friends with the person you are seeking a relationship with.This stage is vital as it allows you to learn more about your partner, as well as confirm/deny your feelings towards a relationship with them.

2.Tell each other everything. If there's something you don't like about them, tell them how you feel. The relationship isn't going to work unless you settle your differences.

3.Never cheat. Cheating has ruined many relationships. Being with someone else will make your partner wonder why someone else was better then them. If you are seriously considering cheating, you should consider ending the relationship so your partner won't get hurt.

4.Be spontaneous. Surprise your partner with tickets to a game or movie. When it's nice and sunny outside, a picnic would be very romantic, or a walk by the lake. Even just the simple flowers on a doorstep with a cute note would work.

5.Spend time with each other. You don't want to miss each other too much. But then you don't want to spend so much time with each other to the point they are sitting in the bathroom with you.

6.Tell your loved one how much you love them. If you don't do this often, they're going to feel neglected and like you don't care any more.

7.Make the commitment. Put your time and money where your commitment is. DEAR NIGERIANS, DONT BE STINGY.Love is not always a warm fuzzy feeling. Often it is a conscious choice.CHOOSE to do for the person that you know will make YOU feel special. Having someone set aside their own wishes to make you feel special is incredibly heartwarming and flattering. Do this for your mate and watch the relationship blossom.

GOODLUCK!!

RESONS WHY RELATIONSHIPS FAIL

Failed relationships are one of the biggest causes of stress and unhappiness in life. Working on successful relationships, whether they are with our children, parents, friends or partners, is one of the most important life skills we can learn.

#FACT#If we cannot maintain lasting relationships, we will always struggle to be happy.

This article looks at seven common reasons why once harmonious relationships break down. If we know why relationships are liable to break down we can avoid the pain involved.

                          JEALOUSY

It is ironic that we can easily become jealous of our closest friends. Jealousy often occurs when there is a feeling of separation and competition. We need to learn to be happy at the success of others; it only when we can feel a sense of oneness with others achievements that jealousy will remain far away.

                             TRUST
Also, we need to trust our partner -a suspicious mind is very poisonous. It is better to be trusting rather than always suspecting infidelity or disloyalty. If our partner lets us down, it is not our fault. But, if we suspect, because of our own insecurity, we are bound to create serious problems in our own relationships.

                           ATTACHMENT
There is a big difference between real love and emotional attachment. When we have emotional attachment to someone, we need their attention and presence. When we have excessive attachment to others, we can easily become jealous and demanding. Often attachment occurs out of a sense of insecurity; if this is the case we need to develop self belief and inner confidence, we can’t just rely on other people to provide that. Strong relationships need a certain detachment; we need to be able to accept others for what they are, rather than expecting them to give us all their attention.

                         SELFISHNESS
Selfishness is the root of all relationship problems. When we are selfish we think of ourselves first and foremost. We ignore the needs of others and become ego centric. Ego centric people are never easy to live with;. When we are selfish we want the praise, support and backing of others; but, we are not willing to give anything in return.True love is selfless, it is given without expectation of receiving anything in return. If we love our self the most, we will always struggle with relationships. Take time to listen to others rather than dominating the conversation; be giving rather than being permanently needy.

                            NO TIME
We have to spend time on what we value. If we always work late, it shows where our priorities lie. If we spend no time with our partner then they will begin to feel resentful/unloved. We can always make time for things we really value; make sure your relationships don’t suffer because you have given your life away to your job. Also, make sure you create time when your partner is the focus of attention; do things that they enjoy doing.

                         TOO MUCH TIME
It does depends on the personality of the people involved; but some people, especially introverts, need time to themselves.We need time to ourselves; strong relationships should be able to deal with periods of separation.This allows individual expression and individual growth.

                      PICKING FAULTS
Whoever we spend time with will undoubtedly have faults. Successful relationships require a certain tolerance of others’ weaknesses. If we keep picking up on the faults over people, expecting them to change, we create permanent tension.A strong relationship should be able to cope with constructive criticism and suggestions. However, we need to make sure we don’t become obsessed with noticing bad things.Rather than remembering all the bad things your partner does,make yourself think of some of the good things that they have been doing.Unfortunately, humans often seem attracted to noticing the faults of others, but, it doesn’t help relationships to do this. If you become too critical it will cause long term problems.